Well, I’m not pissed off right now, but I was a few hours ago.
You see, today is my son’s 9th birthday and I got up the gumption to order my very most favorite Not My Food from the local NMFery to pass out to his third grade class. I picked it up, made a special stop at the party goods store for fun boy-colored napkins, and brought said food to the classroom at the exact time that my son’s teacher told me to be at his class.
Only I missed a bunch of text messages and phone calls from his teacher as I was busy doing the things I do all day and then racing around picking up the birthday treats. So when I got to the classroom, I had no idea that the class wouldn’t be back for almost one hour.
I sat in the hall, waiting and waiting, figuring that the class was going to show up at any moment.
When forty five minutes went by and I started to get concerned that the $50 I had just spent on treats and napkins was going to go to waste, I got really pissed.
That’s when I should have done what I’ve been trained to do: assume the best.
In my mind, I got mad at the teacher and wrote all kinds of stories about how she must have forgotten about me, the treats and the birthday celebration.
And this is just the kind of emotion that in the past would have driven me to eat the NMF.
But thank God for this blog community. Earlier today, Kirsten left a comment on this post about how she had just listened to and loved the newest episode of The Robcast with Harvard psychology professor and author Susan David about her new book Emotional Agility. Don’t worry, I’m not going to tell you to order this book, not yet at least! But I will encourage you to listen to this podcast.
Professor David has some pretty interesting stuff to say about her life’s work, emotions, and her big take away message is that we should stop trying not to have all of the messy emotions. David instead encourages us to simply let our unpleasant emotions be.
So after having listened to the podcast and then getting my panties all in a bunch, I decided that I was just going to let myself be angry and vent about the situation to my friend Marlene in another state.
My rage lasted all of 5 minutes, because before I could press send on the angry text message, the class was back and I was passing out the treats with a few minutes to spare before the end of the day dismissal started.
And do you know what? I didn’t have any desire to eat over it. I just allowed myself to be really pissed for a few minutes. It was big emotions and then it passed without any drama for anyone other than myself and poor Marlene (she must have thought I was nuts, I was cursing so much).
And now I’m sitting here laughing about it with you.
And I’m not eating about it in private.
Thanks Rob Bell. Thanks Susan David. Thanks Kirsten. Thanks Marlene. Thanks blog community!
Have a superfantastic weekend!
edited to note:
It’s full of totally different nuggets than the Robcast interview, and I highly suggest that you listen to it if you get off on this stuff like I do!
I’m also adding a link to her book, because now it seems like such a no brainer that we need to read it in 2017!